Our next question comes from J— which is:
Do doms want their sub to misbehave?
She expanded a little more with:
I am naturally a submissive person with a child-like quality. I have been interested in a Dom/sub relationship for awhile but I have my doubts. In this culture submissive women are looked down on. It seems to me in kink relationships the fun is for the Dom to demand submissiveness and the sub to resist… that seems like play-acting to me. Do you like for your little to misbehave so you can punish her? I feel like even though I would enjoy a strong dominate relationship I would be 100% obedient and demure and that would be boring for my Dom… do you have any insight about this that might help me understand?
You have some great insight and questions here. I will start by saying that every relationship is different and our relationship is not the norm or typical. The great thing is that you can develop your own relationships as you see fit. That being said, both partners get the win/win in a solid relationship. The common mainstream thought is that the dom in a relationship is a controlling sociopath. Nothing could be further from the truth in a good relationship. In our relationship, Naughti enjoys being able to be herself, while I make sure that she doesn’t get herself into trouble. There are times when she is playful and likes to get into trouble but when we are going through more serious challenges we will step out of our role play and take care of things as equals. Well to be honest, she is always really in charge as the sub is in most situations.